We all have been through heart break in our lives. It’s never easy when a marriage or a serious relationship ends. Whatever the reason for the split, the breakup of a relationship can turn your life upside down and trigger all sorts of painful feelings. But there are many things you can do for yourself in order to get through this difficult time and move on. You can learn your lesson from this experience and grow into a stronger, smarter person.
Here are some things you can do to help you get your life back and move on:
LOVE YOURSELF- You need to work on finding happiness within yourself. This is the time you need to recognize what is not working in your life and make the steps to change these things. Think about what you want out of life. Visualize your best self and start replacing negative thoughts with positive. Take care of your mental and physical health. Make sure you look and feel good about yourself. Take care of yourself by doing the basics…exercise, eat healthy, drink lots of water and get plenty of rest. Now more than ever is the perfect time to start developing new habits. Make a daily commitment to ensure you’re ready to move forward by taking the first step- love yourself! You deserve it! Treat yourself like you want your next partner to treat you. Try something new. Take a class. Go out and live life. Take the time out to reflect on the positive things you’ve accomplished in your life. Appreciate what you have and try not to focus on what you don’t have anymore. There’s so many wonderful things in store for you but you need to restore your happiness first in order to experience these things.
FORGIVE AND LET GO- If you were the one that was on the receiving end of a break up, it’s important that you not dwell on the person and wonder why it happened or if they will come back. Chances are there are good reasons why the break up occurred and they may be reasons that you cannot understand right now but once your emotions settle down it will make sense. Forgive yourself for feeling emotional. Forgive your ex for their part in the break up. If you can learn forgiveness and accept your true feelings for this person, you can let them go. Once you realize that you are allowed to still love that person but accept that you can love them and still not be with them physically, it can be liberating. Just remember, this is all happening for a reason and you’re growing stronger through this painful process. Soon enough you will be able to move on because you have let go of the anger and pain.
FOCUS ON THE FUTURE- Many clients enter therapy after a difficult breakup, and they often want to explore what went wrong in the relationship to help them prevent the same relationship patterns in the future! This is something that a good therapist can definitely help you with. People may come into your life, change it forever then disappear. Realize that there are other potential partners more suited for you out there for you but you need to make an effort to explore why you have chosen partners in the past who might not have been best suited for you. Remember that you are worthy of a healthy, happy partnership and that you have a lot to offer. If you have patience with yourself and the process you will look back and realize the lessons learned and knowledge gained.